When Your Team Loses

When-Your-Team-Loses-Photo from GoHeels.com by Jeffrey A. CamaratiOnly 4.7 seconds left when Carolina tied Villanova in the NCAA National Championship. I did not breathe as Villanova ran the ball up court.

“The greatest shot in NCAA title game history had just left Kris Jenkins’ hands. The clock read four-tenths of a second, the scoreboard read 74-74. “Bang,” head coach Jay Wright said to himself as the ball escaped the outstretched arms of North Carolina’s Isaiah Hicks. The clock hit zero, the scoreboard lit up in red, and the ball rattled through the hoop,” commented Fox Sportswriter, Reid Forgrave

I couldn’t believe it

Carolina was not supposed to lose. We were seeded #1 and a model of how a team works. Instantly, I was sad and mad.  Immediately, I switched channels.

When you suffer loss, you can expect to experience one or more of the following feelings at some level of intensity–maybe a little, maybe a lot.  As you admit your feelings of hurt and disappointment, you may blame others or maybe even yourself.

Do you ever hear yourself making any of these statements and feeling these feelings?

  • I don’t believe it – Denial and shock
  • What to I do – Distraction and panic
  • They can’t do that – Frustration and anger
  • I am tired – Down and depressed
  • I don’t feel well – Stress and illness

What do you say when your team loses?  Watch the Carolina Coach after game interview.

Good Grief

Loss begets more loss unless you do something different.  Consider this proven process for progress from the Bible…

…forgetting what lies behind

and reaching forward to what lies ahead,

I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.

Philippians 3:13-14 NASB

Grieving can be good in light of God’s love and blessings.  You can learn from, but not live in the past.  When you let go of the past, you can lean into the future.  Stay in the present moment. Be strong and courageous.

  1. “Forgetting what lies behind” is about accepting loss.
  2. “Reaching forward to what lies ahead” is about accepting opportunity.
  3. “Pressing toward the goal” requires strength training.

You are created for good works whether they are experienced as wins or losses as an individual or a team. Gaining and maintaining a positive attitude is one of seven essential steps in the process.  To learn more, visit our Crossroads Career store and pick up copies of two books:

Take your losses and turn them into wins!


Photo from GoHeels.com by Jeffrey A. Camarati

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